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As she prayed, Rebecca Morlock asked God a question.
What was His larger purpose in guiding her back to
India where she had been several times before?
She knew God wanted her to reach out to orphans at a
children’s home, but she sensed there was, in her words, ‘‘something
more.’’
The answer, the ‘‘something more,’’ came Jan. 15,
2008, less than a month after the Millersburg-area native had
arrived in India.
And it came in the form of a 3 1/2-pound newborn baby
boy, a boy Becky named Kyle Aaron. A boy she chose to became her
son. A son she wants to bring to the United States of America.
Two years later, Becky has been awarded legal
guardianship of Kyle. She is awaiting a visa for Kyle from the
United States, so he can return with her to Pennsylvania and to her
hometown.
As anxious as Becky is to be in Millersburg with her
son, the waiting hasn’t tempered her love for Kyle or her enthusiasm
at being his mother.
‘‘ ...here I am with the most amazing son in the
whole world and I can’t imagine my life without him. What a blessing
and a joy he is!’’ she wrote in an e-mail to family friends dated
Jan. 15, two years to the day she first held Kyle in her arms.
‘‘My little tender hearted lamb.’’ A 1997 graduate
(and valedictorian) of Millersburg Area High School and a 2001
graduate of Messiah College, Becky is the daughter of Wayne and
Cindy Morlock, also of Millersburg. She has a younger sister, Annie.
An evangelical Christian, she had gone to India under
the umbrella of Youth With a Mission in 2004 and served at The
Little Flower Children’s Home, a Christian ministry located in the
nation’s northern region. (A story on her was published in the
Sentinel’s March 22, 2005 issue).
Since then, she had returned several times – for
several months’ each time – reaching out to orphans and street
children.
None of these trips surprised her parents.
‘‘Even as a child, she had a tender heart,’’ Cindy
Morlock said. ‘‘I called her ‘my little tender-hearted lamb.’ ’’
Just before Christmas 2007, Becky – then 29 years old
– returned to northern India, this time planning to stay long term,
believing that God had prompted her to – in her words – ‘‘bless and
encourage the children.’’
But that wasn’t all Becky believed that God had asked
of her.
‘‘For this trip, she’d felt prompted to buy things
for a baby,’’ Cindy said.
‘‘I remember shopping, wondering what I was doing,
and feeling sort of silly buying a few onesies, baby gowns, a baby
carrier, etc.,’’ Becky said in an e-mail to family and friends. ‘‘I
guess in my head I rationalized it; well, because we like to do that
with God, don’t we? I thought that maybe I would meet someone on the
street who needed these things, or maybe I would help a young,
single mother, or who knows?’’
"For such a time as this." As Becky herself would
later say, God knew – and He was about to let her know as well.
On or around Jan. 14, 2008, Becky received a phone
call from a friend. Would she be willing, the friend asked, to take
custody of a baby whose birth mother didn't want to keep him?
‘‘ ... and I just knew, this is what God wants for my
life,’’ she said.
The next day, following an hour-long ride on the back
of a motorcycle, Becky arrived in the city of Kalimpong and met
the friend. They then went to the hospital where the baby had been
born.
Once at the hospital, Becky and her friend were
appalled at the conditions.
‘‘I can’t even imagine having a baby there. The
maternity ward was a mess! Wooden floors with blood on them, the
beds were full, and women were also laying on the floor on
mattresses; the smell alone made me want to gag,’’ she recounted in
her a-mail.
A nurse at the hospital then introduced Becky to the
baby’s birth mother, a young single woman.
‘‘I am shocked as I see her and her sister trying to
feed a tiny little baby warm cow’s milk on a spoon. She wasn’t
nursing; maybe she didn’t want to bond with him at all,’’ Becky
said.
Speaking to the young woman through a translator,
Becky learned that the baby, a male, was sick and that the woman
didn’t want him.
Only the woman’s immediate family knew of her
pregnancy, and if the word got out in the small village where the
woman lived, ‘‘their family could be destroyed, their reputation
ruined,’’ Becky said.
‘‘It was not an option (for the woman) to keep the
baby,’’ Becky continued. ‘‘Besides the fact that she would never be
able to afford or care properly for a baby, she just wanted to walk
away empty-handed, to be released from her shame, to move on with
her life.’’
Even so, in a prayer she offered for the woman, Becky
‘‘thanked the Lord ... that despite the obstacles, she chose life
for her son ... I prayed that the Lord would bless her and help her,
and I prayed a blessing over the baby.’’
After the woman had been discharged from the hospital
and left the city, Becky said she still thought about her.
‘‘I stood there on the street ... and I cried,’’ she
said. ‘‘I can't even imagine what that mother must have been
thinking. What does it feel like to leave your child with a
stranger? What does it feel like to have carried and birthed such a
tiny miracle and to – at the same time – know that you can’t keep
him, or that you don't want to keep him?’’
Stronger still was Becky's sense that God had brought
her and the baby together and that He had directed her to return to
India ‘‘for such a time as this,’’ she said recently, quoting a
portion of Esther 4:14 from the Old Testament.
‘‘She always believed she would have children of her
own or adopt children, but with a husband,’’ Cindy said of her
oldest daughter.
‘‘But we believe that God directed this to happen and
this is why he guided her back to India,’’ she added.
‘‘A wonderful journey.’’ Becky named the baby Kyle
Aaron. According to Cindy, Becky always has loved the beach and the
name Kyle was inspired by kai, the Hawaiian word for ‘‘sea.’’
Kyle’s middle name was inspired by Becky’s conviction
that God wants to use her son to someday proclaim His message, as
did Aaron, Moses’ brother, in the Old Testament book of Exodus.
Kyle was a ‘‘preemie’’ baby and nursing him back to
health has been a challenge in India, according to Becky.
‘‘I remember taking him for immunizations for the
first time. I had to take my own needles, purchased at the pharmacy,
because needles are reused in the hospital,’’ she said in an e-mail.
This month, as mother and son start their third year
together, Kyle is ‘‘healthy and happy,’’ Becky said. They marked the
second anniversary of ‘‘Gotcha Day’’ (the day they were brought
together) with special activities.
Moreover, all the challenges Becky has faced not only
being a single parent, but being a single parent away from family
and friends, and in an environment markedly different than
Millersburg, have been worth it.
‘‘I love Kyle more than I could ever express and I
love being a mommy more than I could ever explain,’’ Becky said.
Mother and son are on ‘‘a wonderful journey that is
only just beginning,’’ she added.
Making history. Becky and Kyle’s next leg on that
journey is leaving India for America – and leaving together, since
Becky will not have it any other way, according to her mother.
‘‘Becky longs to return to America. She wants to be
able to work to support herself and Kyle. She would like to raise
him at home near her family and friends,’’ Cindy said.
Becky has not been back in the United States for more
than two years. Almost ever since she and Kyle were brought
together, she has been working toward obtaining legal custody of
him.
That journey has had more than a few challenges along
the way.
Becky soon learned that as a non-citizen of India,
she was not allowed by India law, to legally adopt Kyle. She could,
however, seek legal guardianship. Once they are in the United
Moreover, she also discovered that that no American has ever gained
legal custody of a baby from India where the baby was handed
directly to the guardian without Indian agencies being involved.
Becky spent eight months solely on finding an
attorney who believed it was even possible for her to become Kyle’s
legal guard-ian. She also moved to India’s capital city, New Delhi,
because of the time she had to spent in the courts.
Finally, the process also included Becky speaking
before the highest court in the nation, the Supreme Court of India.
In the end, the young woman from Millersburg made
history in India, becoming the first non-citizen to be granted legal
guardianship of a child apart from the intervention of Indian
agencies.
Kyle loves ‘‘coookiiieees!’’ Becky is working through
the final step – securing a U.S. visa that will allow Kyle to
legally emigrate to America with her.
While mother and son wait for permission to leave
together, they ‘‘spend some of their time visiting childrens’ homes
and spreading their compassion to the people with whom they come in
contact,’’ according to family and friends.
Even so, it’s not only Becky and Kyle who are anxious
to come home. In Millersburg, Wayne and Cindy Morlock are anxious
to meet their first grandchild, while Annie Morlock looks forward to
seeing her nephew face to face.
‘‘He’s a very happy, outgoing little guy,’’ Cindy
Morlock said of Kyle.
Kyle loves to dance and goes for walks. He already
knows several English words, likes to snack on pretzels and goldfish
crackers and enjoys watching television programs such as ‘‘Little
Einsteins’’ and ‘‘Sesame Street.’’ He’s particularly fond of the
latter show’s Cookie Monster character.
‘‘If Becky puts him on the phone with me, he’ll say
‘Cooookiiieeesss!’ just like Cookie Monster does,’’ Cindy said with
a laugh.
‘‘When I am on the phone with Becky, he will be in
the background, acting like he’s on his own phone. He calls it his
‘hello,’ ’’ she added.
Also, when they are praying, Kyle prompts Becky about
who they should pray for, including ‘‘Poppop, Nana, Annie (and) E.’’
‘‘E’’ is Elijah, his ‘‘long distance friend’’ whom he knows through
Skype, according to Cindy.
Whether Kyle was born in another nation, or how he
came into their lives, makes absolutely no difference to the Morlock
family.
‘‘He’s our grandson, through and through,’’ Cindy
said.
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